God has created us to be connected with other people. He has put a desire for connection and relationship within us. He said in Genesis 2:18 when speaking of Adam, it is not good for him to be alone. God was referring to the relationship He would have with Eve. He was referring to the connection he wanted for Adam. Continue reading
One of the most beautiful pictures of love in the Bible is when Jesus learns that his dear friend Lazarus is sick. His sisters, Mary and Martha, who are also very close to Jesus sent word to him right away: “Lord, the one you love so very much is sick” (John 11:3). Continue reading
We live in a culture today that tweets, posts and texts instead of speaking face to face, where we hear tone of voice and inflection, where we see facial expressions and body language, so we get full communication about everything. How many times have you watched a FaceBook conversation turn into a war of words? Continue reading
When I was about 19 or 20, my mother bought me a brand new Honda Civic. I loved that car, and I drove it everywhere. Well, somewhere along the way, during all the miles I was driving, it leaked a major portion of the oil. Something was wrong, but because I was unaware of this, I kept driving it. Continue reading
When we become angry, it’s because we perceive that something is threatening our security and well-being. We’re afraid of being controlled. We’re afraid that we aren’t going to make it. That things won’t get better. We’re afraid of something. So, we react—we yell, hold grudges, sling insults, and sting others with our sarcasm. All unacceptable behaviors. All destructive. Continue reading
When we think of anger, we think of a heated exchange of words. Yelling. Accusing. Venting. If you’re yelling at your kids, your spouse or your employees, it’s not OK to do that. While you may not see the damage you’re inflicting, you’re destroying the relationships you need and want. Continue reading
Circumstances can change rapidly in our lives. Relationships can end unexpectedly. Jobs can change. Engagements to be married can be called off. Life just happens to all of us. And how we process those events affect our well-being—spirit, soul and body.
I remember years ago when my Dad Continue reading
When I was nine months old, my mother passed away from a heart attack. My dad was an alcoholic, and the authorities wanted to remove me and my older brothers from our home. I had an aunt, my mother’s sister-in-law, who was in the delivery room the day I was born. She was very close to my mom, and stayed with her for three months after my birth. She fell in love with me and grew to feel so attached to me. So, when my mom died, and we all needed a new home, she and my uncle wanted me right away.
If you’re feeling guilty today, it’s because someone is accusing you—and it’s not God. The Bible says Satan is the accuser—not God ( Revelation 12:10). Let me tell you a powerful story of Jesus defying the accusers and showering a woman with grace.
“At dawn [Jesus] he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, ‘Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?’ They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him” (John 8:2-6).
I love what happens next…
Oftentimes, as I coach couples challenged in their marriage, a very telling habit is uncovered. It’s a very alarming sign that reveals the state of their relationship. I always tell them, “If you don’t fix this in your relationship, you’re headed for a completely broken relationship.”
I don’t say that to be hurtful, but to wake them up to want to change. Over time, they’ve digressed to: Attacking the Person, Not the Behavior.